Why did we choose these crucial, taboo topics?
Because these topics affect us everyday. They’re about how we relate to and interact with each other. They’re about how we are when we are alone with ourselves. They affect how we deal with conflict, money, love, intimacy, shame, and much more.
Because shining a light on what is unsaid allows us to be more courageous, self-aware, understanding, and thus more innovative, creative, resilient, and happy. We know that articulating what we think or feel helps us make sense of it, which lets us integrate it, rather than reject and suppress it. When we know of our fears, we can respect and overcome them. When we know of our weaknesses, we can grow stronger. When we know how to be curious, we are happier.
For ex, what might we learn from…
We make some assumptions about ideal relationships and how they should work, but in practice, we might desire something more customised. Open relationships is one area in which people have to define their own terms for love and boundaries. Kink is another, where permissions granted and ideas of arousal are very different. Whether or not we support these choices, what can we learn here?
We expect a natural progression from dating, to living together, marriage, having children, etc — but what if those are not the defaults? What if we get to define what we do by default? Divorce — it’s taboo because it shows that we and our choices aren’t perfect. But let’s talk about family after divorce. Let’s talk about how we and our children understand and talk about love.
We’re all about the high value exits, innovative ideas, working with friends in a garage, and awesome culture. But what about when the business is going well but you just don’t want to get out of bed? What about when you’re in a hard place, and you’re just trying to get everyone out safely? How do you take risks, and recover from mistakes? We need to know how to land the plane.
What does it signify when we’re angry, passionate, defensive, ashamed, or annoyed? Often it means we hit something we really value — and that what we each think is important is different. Conflict might be because we’re defensive — that we’re running away from a harsh truth, illusion, or insecurity. What if we could approach those moments with just curiosity?